In part one, we considered some ways in which communication is important to the development of children. In this article, we will focus on 4 ways parents can communicate effectively with their children.
1. Build a Stronger Relationship
The bond between parents and their children is strong, however, with the fast pace of life and the changes that occur as children grow and develop, relationships can easily be taken for granted and not be given the time and attention that is needed. Therefore, taking the time to make talking, discussion - communication a part of every day, will build a stronger relationship.
The other day, as I was out and about, I saw a parent with her little 5-year-old, walking down the street. The little one was smartly dressed in her school uniform and Mum was lovingly and carefully holding her hand - a lovely scene. However, what was wrong with this picture? Mum had a set of headphones on, engaged in her own world and her little girl was just walking alongside. What a missed opportunity! Walking home to and from school is a great time to talk and communicate with our children. Asking about their day, sharing what has happened in yours, making plans etc. all adds to building a stronger relationship.
2. Be a Listening Ear
It is all too easy sometimes to switch of when our children are talking non-stop, however it might be during those times when you might miss something that maybe of relevance later. Life is busy, so if we cannot take the time right there and then, in the moment to listen when our children are speaking, we can always re-schedule 'Talking Time' for later, perhaps at dinner or before bedtime.
Being a great listener, helps support our children's emotional development too. More often than not, children need help navigating their emotions and if we have established good communication with our children, we can be the support they need when they are facing challenges and help them to regulate their own emotions and develop emotional intelligence.
3. Foster 'Teachable Moments'
You may have heard this term' 'teachable moment' from Oprah Winfrey and indeed it is a significant term. As a parent, we don't want to leave the 'teaching' to the teachers and the schools, our children's learning initially starts with us - we are the 'first port of call', so we want to ensure that we direct and guide our children in the best way possible.
We do that by engaging our children in conversation; ask them questions and encourage them to express their thoughts and ideas. This aids their cognitive development and by building their language skills as well as their ability to solve problems and to think critically, we ensure that our communication is effective and beneficial.
4. Fair But Firm
As with any relationship, there will always come a time when things don't go to plan and discipline is in order. The thing is discipline does not need to be negative and if you have created a strong foundation of communication, then discipline - or the need to talk things through will demonstrate, love, patience and understanding.
Effective communication encourages positive behaviour and by setting clear expectations, providing praise and positive reinforcement, we can help our children to develop self-respect, self-discipline and be responsible individuals.
To conclude, effective communication aids the development of children and as parents, it is vital that we recognize the importance of talking, engaging and communicating with our children, so that they are supported emotionally and cognitively. The channels of communication need to be established now so that they know who they can turn to in times of trouble and not seek advice form 'social media' etc.
Effective communication between parents and their children, will help them to navigate the challenges that they face as they grow.
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